Sometimes the unintentional becomes habitual.
Not because we want it to, but because we let it.
Recently, I’ve found myself holding back on moving forward. Specifically, in regard to “missional” opportunities I want to pursue. The reason why: I got caught up in the unthinkable habit of thinking I had to rely on others before I plowed ahead. The fact is, I am only holding myself back. It’s all part of the stories we tell ourselves that become our reality. This “reality” is a perceived reality and is based on a distorted substantiality of actuality.
Relying on others can cause several repercussions. Allow me to elaborate.
- Waiting can be a time-suck. Think of all the good you could be doing and progress made toward your goals if you only applied yourself by taking matters in your own hands. Jesus healed on the Sabbath. He didn’t wait until the next day or ask the Pharisees (religious leaders) for permission. He did what he needed to do when he needed to do it. Which brings us to…
- Permission can be over-rated. Depending on what you are trying to accomplish, permission may not be required. Rather, it is simply a representative affirmation of agreement, consent, or approval from others. In other words, it may be totally unnecessary.
- Empowerment is also over-rated. This is a struggle for me. Both direction and authorization from a decision-maker or enabler are good things to have. But if it jeopardizes positive momentum, it then becomes a set back. The need to feel empowered is a fabrication within our own minds. Empowerment is equated with importance and relevance. Neither of which are necessary components to getting things done. They are self-serving.
In thinking about this, I come back to a phrase I learned long ago at Southwestern Advantage. In fact, I’m guilty of teaching it.
If it’s going to be, it starts with me!
This is true in just about every viable scenario. Results start with action… We harvest what we plant… We reap what we sow… Accountability begets responsibility and vice-versa…
In Galatians 6, we can find wisdom in this domain of discussion:
Pay careful attention to your own work, for then you will get the satisfaction of a job well done, and you won’t need to compare yourself to anyone else. For we are each responsible for our own conduct.
– Galatians 6:4-5
This goes beyond “if you want something done right, do it yourself.” In my opinion, this is a very self-centered, narcissistic phrase. The unintentional habit for which I will be breaking the cycle: I will cease chasing others to obtain permission or be empowered to pursue opportunities. I alone am responsible for my own work and conduct. When it comes to matters of the Spirit, timing can be everything!
Like this post? Check out previous posts from the Spirit-filled Leadership Series:
Spirit-filled Leadership Series Vol. 2: Six Word Not to Be Used Lightly
Spirit-filled Leadership Series Vol. 1: Relationships or Fences?
By Trey Campbell, firstname.lastname@example.org