How you see your self-worth falls in one of two categories: worth it or worthless.
I’ve seen this over and over in all of the capacities I work with people – from leading youth groups to life groups, in mediations and arbitrations, from college students to my own kids, from my friends to my own reflection. The truth is, how we see ourselves is ultimately determined by us, not others. The tough part is self-confidence plays a large part in our self-worth. Our confidence can be eroded over time by others who tear us down, make rude comments, bully, or are negative towards us as they try to make themselves feel better by putting others down.
In reality, when we look at the reflection staring back at us in the mirror, we may not always like what we see. Do not let the flaws you’ve been led to believe you have by others lead to faulty self-worth. You are beautiful inside and out. One’s worth is not determined by what others believe or say. That is their opinion. And you know what they say about opinions… everyone’s got one, but it doesn’t mean it is backed up with intelligence! Plato said, “Opinion is the medium between knowledge and ignorance.”
This is another arrow in Satan’s quiver. Making us feel worthless makes us vulnerable. When we are vulnerable, we are susceptible. When susceptible, we are weak. And this is just where he wants us. And through our need to have the approval of others, we feed in to his lies. We’re fat on the words of others. Yet our strengths lie in the words we tell ourselves. This is a double-edged sword, as our weaknesses also lie in the words we tell ourselves. Leonardo da Vinci said, “The greatest deception men suffer is from their own opinions.”
Rajneesh said, “The greatest fear in the world is the opinions of others. And the moment you are unafraid of the crowd, you are no longer a sheep, you become a lion. A great roar arises in your heart, the roar of freedom.” If you haven’t heard that roar of freedom in your heart before or in a long time, you are missing something special. Don’t let the devil deny you that freedom.
The opinions that lead to your self-worth may be planted by the very things Plato, da Vinci, and Rajneesh spoke of: ignorance, deception, and fear. Satan is the gardener in this case and these are his seeds of self-destruction. Be aware so you can build your true net worth. God gave you life, so make it worthwhile. After all, you ARE worth it!