“What consumes your mind, controls your life.”
In the second volume of this three-part blog series (Volume 1), I want to talk about how we lose control. Control is a funny thing. We often think we need it. We have to have it. In fact, we cling to it so as to feel, well, in control.
But you can’t control the controllables if the things within your control are out of control. Allow me to explain.
If you eat McDonald’s everyday and supersize the combo, you will see noticeable changes in your body, particularly your waist line. Just like your how your body reacts to the foods you choose to eat, your mind reacts to the things you choose to feed it as well. If “we are what we eat,” then we are certainly what we think as well. If you don’t control your intake of greasy, high caloric fast food, you don’t control the results – poor health and not just a muffin top, but a whole baker’s dozen! One way to feed your mind is to nourish it with positive material in the form of books and programming where you learn and grow. Entertainment has its time and place, but at what expense does it have when you feed your mind with too much garbage?
Let me throw out another example. Addiction. Specifically for our purposes, porn addiction. I know quite a number of people who have this addiction. It’s more common that you might think. The things they view consume their mind and begin to control their life. This is an example of a something within your control getting out of control! Addiction is serious and has many people living a life of lies. Back to whatever consumes your mind, controls it. But there is always hope. Sometimes you have to get the help other others to gain back control – no matter how strong the pull is for you to take your hands off the wheel of your life, you can always be driving down the road to recovery.
We tend to lose control of the things that are 100% controllable when we lose our perspective, when we dance on the other side of reality. This happens with different people for different reasons. It might be anxiety, pressure, desire, lust, gluttony, lies, poor choices or, yes, addictions.
Any one of these things has the potential to control your mind. In fact, dominate it. Why? Because the things that are front and center in our mind are hard to escape. At some point, we let them control us instead of us controlling them. When our mind loses containment of a controllable, things tend to spiral out of control – quickly!
If this is something you have found true in your life – here’s something you can do. Surrender it. Let it go. Give it to God. Because of his infinite, unending love, overwhelming victory is ours! We shall conquer the source of our loss of self-control just as we shall conquer the day!
“No, in all these things we are more than
conquerors through him who loved us.”
– Romans 8:37
A few take-aways:
- Don’t let what is out of your control interfere with the things that are.
- “No matter the situation, don’t let your emotions overpower your intelligence.” (Author unknown)
- Stop overthinking
- Recognize and cease (to the best of your ability) indulging in the things that consume your mind and control your life that are not good for you
- Surrender to God