As we move further into the new year, I would like to publicly affirm: I’ve decided against the typical New Year’s Resolutions. Not that I really buy into stating something I know I will trail-off of in a couple of months anyway. I believe if you want to push yourself and set goals, for me at least, this is something done throughout the year, not just because the calendar turns a page. Besides, it’s not helpful at all unless it’s seen to fruition.
This year, I am concerned with only two words for which I will pour my focus into. This will be both my self-talk and internal rally cry. They will be a step towards how I will go about achieving the growth and change I desire. I think it will be unshackling and beneficial to be able to use my creativity and God-given unlimited potential to focus on a greater vision for who I fully intend to be through two simple words.
My two words: refine & redefine.
So, why these two? Well…
Refine means to improve, polish, enhance, and cultivate. These are all things I want to do with my life. I want to be the best me I can be. If anything my 17 years at Southwestern Advantage has taught me, it’s how you are not ever done becoming the person you will one day be. What that means is, we are in a constant phase of change. All of us. The thing we must keep in mind is how change is growth. Growth can be either positive or negative. Change can be pretty or it can be ugly. I choose positive and pretty.
Reread those synonyms I listed for refine: improve, polish, enhance, and cultivate. I want to improve and polish the things that make me great in the eyes of God and I want to cultivate the things that need work. I’m like a crop that needs to be cultivated. We all need our soil turned every once in a while. After recent self-audits, there are some things I like about myself and somethings I just don’t. I can be a better husband, father, friend, coworker, and yes… human. We all can, for that matter. This year, as I put emphasis on the word “refine,” I’ll be looking for ways to boost into a new stratosphere to become a greater version of me.
The next word of focus is “redefine.” What I mean by this is I will further identify who I
want to be, making the necessary changes to the person I already am. Redefine = reinvent. Our life cycles are anything but stagnant. They are meant to be a sequence of progress and transformation.
This is seen best in one of my favorite verses:
Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect. – Romans 12:2
If I allow God to transform me – to reinvent me – by changing the way I think… I will know His will for me. This truly is becoming the person I WANT to be. Some of the things I have already started to focus on:
1. Read, read, read! I think this is one of the best ways to feed your mind. I have a stack of books that are about personal and spiritual development that I’m looking forward to diving into.
2. Get into the Word! For me, the Bible is motivation and feeds my spirit. The more the better!
3. Seek and recognize opportunity. Opportunity is all around us. The opportunity I want is the chance to make an impact on someone else’s life.
4. Build relationships. The best way to build yourself is to build your relationships with others. Trust and intimacy are born out of friendships. Get to know people. You may find out you have more in common than you think.
These are some thoughts regarding my personal journey for which I will center in on this year – from the person I am to the person I aspire to be. I want to refine the person I am and redefine who I want to be. How about you?
By Trey Campbell, email@example.com